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Cohabitation is becoming the norm. Are you for it?
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Many couples are opting for a replacement or"trial alternative" to marriage. As a result, marriage is becoming more like buying a car--people want a"test drive" before they sign the dotted line. The reasons are varied. Some feel it's not the right time for marriage while others think living together is the best insurance against divorce. Once rare, cohabiting is becoming the norm.
What are your thoughts on cohabitation?
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Couples who live together are often less committed to the relationship over the long-term. And since marriage is the ultimate manifestation of commitment, married couples are more often willing to work out their differences before walking out of the relationship.
Our parents might have frowned upon it, but more and more couples are moving in together rather than choosing the traditional route of getting married. There are various reasons for this, ranging from wanting to test the waters of compatibility to a lack of financial resources. Some people say they don’t need a piece of paper to prove their love and commitment to each other, while for the commitment-shy, living together offers the comfort of an escape clause in case their love goes sour.
The trend reflects the fact that marriage is increasingly becoming optional in adult life now.
For many, it also makes financial sense to share living expenses in order to save money.
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Instead of marriage, people are moving into cohabitation as a first union
The way I see it, the whole premise of cohabitation is enjoy the benefits of a shared living arrangement without the legal hassle if things don't work out.
Think of it this way, which would you prefer, a job where you are paid by the day with no commitment or investment by your employer that you will on the payroll next year, or month or day? Or would you prefer an evergreen contract where the employer must pay a penalty for terminating you without notice? Living together is like a day job, if it doesn't work out then no harm,"see ya." Most of us would prefer a contract I would think
Personally, I would not live with someone I'm not married to or don't intend to marry. If I'm close enough to that person where living together is on the table, I would want to marry them.
Honestly I see cohabitation as benefiting the men far more than the women
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The work of Arielle Kuperberg, Ph.D. shows that cohabitation before marriage is not the issue. The issue is whether you're mature enough to treat the relationship as a marriage, whether you have the legal paper or not.
Only a quarter of couples who move in together actively see it as a step towards getting married, research suggests. One in five couples who cohabit or plan to have actively ruled marriage out and one in seven of them are convinced they will never be able to afford to get married even if they wanted to, polling by the Co-operative Legal Services found. The study also uncovered growing confusion among the public about what rights people who live together unmarried have to property and contact with their children in the event of a break-up.
If you choose to cohabit I think you have to face the facts that no matter how many safeguards you put in place, you will never have the same degree of legal protection as you would if you married.