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Dating a co-worker is never a good idea

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You spend most of your waking hours at work. You rarely get out for lunch, never mind dinner. You'd like to meet that special someone, but you just don't know where to look.

Suddenly, Cupid shoots his arrow, and it hits the person in the next office. Your heart starts beating faster, and blood rushes to your head. Out with all reason—love is in the air!

Stop. Sure, meetings will be more fun. You already have lots in common. But how often do office romances work? And when it ends, what will your life be like? Will you be peering around corners to make sure your former love isn't in the hall and avoiding the company picnic for fear your ex will flaunt a new love interest? Is this any way to live? https://www.monster.com/career-advice/article/office-romance-danger-ahead
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The workplace is a perfectly wonderful place to meet a person and start a romantic relationship.You have to be professional about it, of course. You can't play footsie under the conference room table and annoy your co-workers, but of course you can date a co-worker, and there's no good reason not to. At work, you get to see how a person thinks and acts. You get to see his or her sense of humor. Work is a safe place to observe a person and interact with him or her, and a great place to get to know someone you might get involved with romantically. Years ago, it was considered very 'not done' to date a co-worker, but those days are long gone.
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Is it ever okay to date a co-worker?
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There are definitely differing views on this, but they’re all just opinions. Some people will say ‘absolutely under no circumstances should you ever date a co-worker. It’s unprofessional, and it blurs boundaries.’
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If you date someone you work with and it doesn’t work out, you need to be aware and prepared for the fact that you’re going to have to continue working near that person, with that person, and/or seeing that person often even when it might be uncomfortable, awkward, or even painful.
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If you date someone you work with and it doesn’t work out, you need to be aware and prepared for the fact that you’re going to have to continue working near that person, with that person, and/or seeing that person often even when it might be uncomfortable, awkward, or even painful.
If you want to date a co-worker and are OK with the consequences if you both break up, then game on. If you don’t think you want to deal with having to continue to interact and see someone who you are no longer dating, then keep your dates limited to people you don’t work with
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Yes! It’s perfectly fine to date a co-worker, but there are finer boundaries when you're dating a colleague.
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The most important thing is to see if there is a dating policy at your workplace.
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I don't know hey ... Of course, you should never date a co-worker because what if you break up and have to work together every day?
On the other hand, what if you fall in love and stay together forever?
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When there is a rank difference between two people, things can get a little sticky. For example, If the supervisor treats their love interest better than the other people they open themselves up for a lawsuit.
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People talk. They also jump to conclusions. When co-workers date, there is a problem with how it looks to everyone else.
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People talk. They also jump to conclusions. When co-workers date, there is a problem with how it looks to everyone else.
Exactly. If you think that no one will know, think again. This sort of thing has a way of going public. There will be gossip. If it doesn’t work out, you won’t know what your former date is saying about you to your mutual coworkers. If it does work out, you won’t know what your coworkers are saying about both of you.
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Unless your company has a dating policy, issue isn’t whether or not it’s okay. It’s about whether or not you’re willing to take that risk.
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Of course it is. And, it’s legal.
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I think it's quite romantic, like in films and TV shows. Definitely, but people will eventually call it an “affair” and judge your life
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It depends upon company policy, in most cases it is frowned upon if the workers are at the same level, you should check the company policy to be sure.
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