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How does it feel to be raised without a mother?

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One important question you might have is about whether or not your child’s mother’s absence will have a negative affect on his or her development. Unfortunately, it might.

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Children raised without mothers tend to show more emotional problems. Later in life, they have trouble making normal relationships, and they struggle with abandonment and security issues. While the absence of a father usually affects a child’s later relationship with the male figures in their life, studies show that the absence of a mother has a more profound affect on an adult’s relationship with everyone.
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Did you grow up without a mother? How did that affect your life? If you can have a do-over? Would you prefer to still live without a mother?
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God cannot be present everywhere , So , he created mothers ! You lose your mom - you literally lose your world!
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Miserable. There would be a huge void in your life & nobody can ever fill that up.

I lost my mom when I was barely 5 years old & my younger brother was little over 2 years old. I was raised by my maternal family & I was lucky in a way that my mom’s mom, her sisters, her brothers raised me so they really tried to love me as she would have. But as everyone has their own family, kids, I used to feel left out. I always had the material comfort as much as all my cousins had - there was no unfair behaviour. I am a post-graduate from one of the premier institutes of India & doing really well financially, so they tried to provide me all they could.
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God cannot be present everywhere , So , he created mothers ! You lose your mom - you literally lose your world!
I know what you mean!
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Miserable. There would be a huge void in your life & nobody can ever fill that up.

I lost my mom when I was barely 5 years old & my younger brother was little over 2 years old. I was raised by my maternal family & I was lucky in a way that my mom’s mom, her sisters, her brothers raised me so they really tried to love me as she would have. But as everyone has their own family, kids, I used to feel left out. I always had the material comfort as much as all my cousins had - there was no unfair behaviour. I am a post-graduate from one of the premier institutes of India & doing really well financially, so they tried to provide me all they could.
At least you still had some family from your mother side to compensate and tell you about your mom.
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It is quite hard. My mother and father split up, my mother then moved to a different country. This happened all when I was 1. I don't know what she looks like, her name, anything. Anyway, it is kind of depressing. You go to school and you see all these kids with the perfect family and boasting about their mothers. You can’t do that…. and it is painful. Don’t even get me started on mothers day. WORST HOLIDAY EVER!!! You look around and everyone is happy and laughing with their mothers and you have no one to do that with. When you are younger and you are at school, you do projects for your mother, and you end up throwing them out. What hurts the most though, is when you go to a friends house and you see how happy they are, snuggling with there mother, and are carefree. So, all in all, VERY PAINFUL!
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Guys , but no matter what , mom is something who is irreplaceable . No one , just no one can take her place .
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I am a guy and I was 2 years old when my mother passed away, I don't even remember how she looked like.

It is quite easy to say it in a one line that since I don't even know what a mother is, how she loves you and so on, so I don't miss on something BUT that is quite a robotic answer. Infact, I had a step mother who never cared for me and mentally abused me throughout my childhood and after doing all that she separated and left us, so in a way I had a very very negative image of a mother in my life.

But if you look between the lines, it is quite difficult to live without a mother, specially in a country India and even in a metropolitan city.
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Although it cannot be expressed in words but its like you have everything with you but still have nothing. What I felt after my mother's death is like standing alone in a desert with nothing in hand and nowhere to go. That feeling is something no one can understand and everybody can only sympathise with you. The void she created in my life is still there although my father is very supportive and I am married to an amazing guy and have a daughter along with very understanding and supportive in laws.

I feel like I could have just a minute to tell her that I am sorry for my behaviour, my tantrums, my disobedience, my anger, my shouting and everything I did that hurt her. I never realised that in the midst of my life with no problems at all it was she who was bearing all the pain and protecting me from the bad things. All I thought was what my mother is doing nothing special as she is a mother and she is bound to do the things she does. I never valued her, her actions or her doings for me. All I cared for was outsiders or strangers getting affected by their actions and consequently, I used to be very irritated and frustrated. The day I saw her lying there on the floor with a hard heart having no beat, I realised shit, I didn't have any problems till she was there. Inside my mind, I knew oh if anything bad happens I would go to my mother for a solution or advice but outside/ in front of anyone I never accepted this fact. Now, as they say, life goes on and time waits for none. So, here I am living the present and preparing for the future with only memories of the past including my mother and everything about her. I do feel sad and her absence hurts me a lot and I even cry alone sometimes but when I look at what I have now and how I have improved after her death, it makes me feel that wherever my mother is she is proud of me at least now.
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Although it cannot be expressed in words but its like you have everything with you but still have nothing. What I felt after my mother's death is like standing alone in a desert with nothing in hand and nowhere to go. That feeling is something no one can understand and everybody can only sympathise with you. The void she created in my life is still there although my father is very supportive and I am married to an amazing guy and have a daughter along with very understanding and supportive in laws.

I feel like I could have just a minute to tell her that I am sorry for my behaviour, my tantrums, my disobedience, my anger, my shouting and everything I did that hurt her. I never realised that in the midst of my life with no problems at all it was she who was bearing all the pain and protecting me from the bad things. All I thought was what my mother is doing nothing special as she is a mother and she is bound to do the things she does. I never valued her, her actions or her doings for me. All I cared for was outsiders or strangers getting affected by their actions and consequently, I used to be very irritated and frustrated. The day I saw her lying there on the floor with a hard heart having no beat, I realised shit, I didn't have any problems till she was there. Inside my mind, I knew oh if anything bad happens I would go to my mother for a solution or advice but outside/ in front of anyone I never accepted this fact. Now, as they say, life goes on and time waits for none. So, here I am living the present and preparing for the future with only memories of the past including my mother and everything about her. I do feel sad and her absence hurts me a lot and I even cry alone sometimes but when I look at what I have now and how I have improved after her death, it makes me feel that wherever my mother is she is proud of me at least now.
I feel for you. I can't imagine living my life without my mom!
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First of all I am lucky to have my mom … and whatever I am writing is just from things I have observed.

There are three different impact situations -
1. When you don’t her from very tender age .
2. When you lose her in your adolescence or teenage time .
3. After late 20 or in 30s.

It's especially hard to lose your mom when you are in your teenage years. This trauma has a great impact on the the growth of child. This is when they need her unconditional love the most.
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It is indescribable, the pain with which you have to live, knowing that no one now loves selflessly, no one waits for you. My mom passed away a little more than 5 months ago and the journey has been rough throughout. I didn't expect it to be easy either but the pain is just never ending. Suddenly out of nowhere i may end up crying, thinking of my mom on how she would have behaved in a situation, her smile, her hugs, kissing her every time i went back home from college hostel. Remembering her all the time, the things she made me learn, everything pains me. I knew she loved me a lot. She would do anything for my happiness even though i wasn't a very good child to her.
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It's bittersweet.

My mother has done her best, but she struggled with a lot of mental health issues and generally wasn't a good person to begin with. I think she rationalized a lot of what she put me through. She never had a good relationship with her mother (due to her, my grandmother is the SWEETEST lady.)

My mother isn't dead, but we no longer have a mother-daughter relationship due to her actions and behavior towards me. Most of which was serious emotional abuse and manipulation including gas lighting. She has hurt me past repair for over a decade.
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I didn't realize there are so many unique stories out there about not having a mom! I never knew!
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