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How to Fix a Broken Heart

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Guy Winch, whose book, How to Fix a Broken Heart, debunks some common myths surrounding heartbreak. According to him, “In other words, love is addictive and heartbreak causes us to go through powerful withdrawal.”

He also discusses why it's so much harder to be broken up with than to break-up with someone yourself.

https://www.independent.co.uk/life-style/love-sex/break-up-how-to-get-over-someone-fast-you-like-relationships-psychology-a8240891.html
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Avoid this traps to get over a breakup -

1. Do NOT check up on them on social media. This will reinforce your ex’s presence in your mind and only make it harder for you to stop fantasising about your broken relationship.
2. Avoid creating mysteries about why the break-up happened, this will give your ex a starring role in your thoughts when you need to downgrade them to an extra. Accept any explanation that fits the facts and keeps your self-esteem intact such as they were unwilling to commit, they allowed themselves to drift emotionally and didn’t bring up what was happening until it was too late, or they were just not the person you thought they were.
3. Make a list of all of the compromises you had to make in the relationship that you would rather not make next time.
4. Do the things that used to bring you enjoyment and interest even if they don’t seem interesting and enjoyable now. Going through the motions is an important way to signal to yourself that life goes on.
5. Remove reminders of the relationship that cause you distress or pain such as texts and photographs.
6. Reach out to friends and make the most of their support; heartbreak is ubiquitous and everybody has their own words of wisdom to offer.
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Do you have your own breakup remedy? How soon did you recover from your breakup with your remedy?
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Guy Winch only describes a little bit of the solution.

Bringing to light all the defects of a relationship is a good idea, but one also needs to go a step further. Instead of only concentrating on your ex's faults, which is still feeding the past, one should concentrate on what you want in the next relationship. Think about the perfect partner, the qualities they'd have, how they'd make you feel, the activities you'd do together, etc. Yes, your old partner was wrong for you, but the NEW partner can be exceptional. Create that image and build on it.
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Hi i need help
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Guy Winch only describes a little bit of the solution.

Bringing to light all the defects of a relationship is a good idea, but one also needs to go a step further. Instead of only concentrating on your ex's faults, which is still feeding the past, one should concentrate on what you want in the next relationship. Think about the perfect partner, the qualities they'd have, how they'd make you feel, the activities you'd do together, etc. Yes, your old partner was wrong for you, but the NEW partner can be exceptional. Create that image and build on it.
Totally!! You must imagine the future possibilities, and not only for a partner, but for yourself as well. In my own life, the evolution truly happened when I realized what an unfortunate mess I had become due to my breakup. The addict comparison is well placed, and I truly felt as if I was an addict when I saw what was becoming of my life.
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Hi i need help
What's wrong?
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Guy Winch only describes a little bit of the solution.

Bringing to light all the defects of a relationship is a good idea, but one also needs to go a step further. Instead of only concentrating on your ex's faults, which is still feeding the past, one should concentrate on what you want in the next relationship. Think about the perfect partner, the qualities they'd have, how they'd make you feel, the activities you'd do together, etc. Yes, your old partner was wrong for you, but the NEW partner can be exceptional. Create that image and build on it.
I think you and the speaker are essentially making the same point no?
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Breaking up. It happens kind of suddenly. One minute, you're holding hands walking down the street, and the next minute, you're lying on the floor crying and all the good CDs are missing.
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Guy Winch only describes a little bit of the solution.

Bringing to light all the defects of a relationship is a good idea, but one also needs to go a step further. Instead of only concentrating on your ex's faults, which is still feeding the past, one should concentrate on what you want in the next relationship. Think about the perfect partner, the qualities they'd have, how they'd make you feel, the activities you'd do together, etc. Yes, your old partner was wrong for you, but the NEW partner can be exceptional. Create that image and build on it.
Sorry but I would have to disagree. You dwell on the qualities of the""PERFECT partner or PERFECT relationship"" but these don't exist. It's far more empowering to feel intensely sad for as long as you need to and to EXPRESS your pain and get it out of your system.

Release it and then when you meet a suitable person with some great qualities, focus on the good, try not to make the same mistakes and appreciate those. Appreciate and enjoy the person. Do not imagine and search for perfection, you'll just be disappointed.
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Sometimes the best way to"recover" from heartbreak is to not give away your power to begin with when you enter into a relationship. You are a person who had a life, friends and purpose before you met your partner; many people make the mistake of throwing that all away on a relationship. Relationships are to enhance you and compliment your life, not to hijack your person-hood and dignity. Have some respect for yourselves and stop thinking that your"one and only" is the only thing worth investing in.
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The best way is for me to give them a break to see how they really hurt you i mean it sucks but then they'll realize
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Feel it. Feel the agony. Feel it because this might be the most gruesome emotional experience you will face in your lifetime. Cry if you want to. Go punch a wall if you need to. Have those flashbacks of the moments you shared with your heart breaker and how they turned out to be a piece of poop. Call your best friend and vent to them. Be miserable. It's totally fine. You know why?

Because this is the healing process. Let it run its course.
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Feel it. Feel the agony. Feel it because this might be the most gruesome emotional experience you will face in your lifetime. Cry if you want to. Go punch a wall if you need to. Have those flashbacks of the moments you shared with your heart breaker and how they turned out to be a piece of poop. Call your best friend and vent to them. Be miserable. It's totally fine. You know why?

Because this is the healing process. Let it run its course.
I agree. It's a process and you shouldn't rush through it.
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Sometimes the best way to"recover" from heartbreak is to not give away your power to begin with when you enter into a relationship. You are a person who had a life, friends and purpose before you met your partner; many people make the mistake of throwing that all away on a relationship. Relationships are to enhance you and compliment your life, not to hijack your person-hood and dignity. Have some respect for yourselves and stop thinking that your"one and only" is the only thing worth investing in.
True, and if you’re already miserable with your life when starting something with someone, you will be ten times more miserable when it ends. I made this mistake - I couldn’t find happiness with myself or anything, the hope at love was all I had.
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Emotional intelligence is very important!! If we are not aware how our emotions work within us as individuals then we can not interpret and respond to our emotions the right way ! Only leading us to suffering and hurt in the long run. Educate yourself on yourself
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