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How You Should Love Your Child

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Dr. Shefali shares her professional advice on parenting and loving your child in the most meaningful way.
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All I want for my kids is to grow up and be good parents and be good to their spouse.. I don't care what job or religion they choose or how much money they make.. I'll love them either way but as long as they are good people I'll be so proud of them.
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I don’t take advice from one who’s going to college and thinks they know it all. I take advice from those who are twice as old as me. They have lived life and have experienced it.
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YES!!! Beautiful message. Thank you again for sharing this. Loving WITHOUT CONDITION is the only love. Whatever other kind of 'love' you feel you have, is NOT love. It is driven by 'EGO'.
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Sorry, I disagree. If we let children be free and let them be how they want to be. This is calling for disruptive behavior.
Yes we have to show unconditional love, but we have to guide them and teach them through life, and Right from wrong.
I’ve been to parenting classes. And the first thing they say is a child loves to be disciplined because they feel that you will protect them, and they can feel safe.
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Sorry, I disagree. If we let children be free and let them be how they want to be. This is calling for disruptive behavior.
Yes we have to show unconditional love, but we have to guide them and teach them through life, and Right from wrong.
I’ve been to parenting classes. And the first thing they say is a child loves to be disciplined because they feel that you will protect them, and they can feel safe.
She's not saying discipline or corrective action is wrong. She is saying that the path of a child should be chosen by the child; and that it's the job of a parent to guide that path and help them along the way. Of course a child needs to be Guided and Helped, but what they don't need is to be pushed down the parents perceptions of right, wrong, and worthy achievement.
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There's a poem by Kahlil Gibran that is very beautiful about children and loving them. I encourage everyone to read it. I think people might get a better understanding what she's trying to say.
http://www.katsandogz.com/onchildren.html
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I like her approach for today's society is much more educated my parents worked hard in thrir own way and raised us without the more detailed knowledge that someone like dr shhivali offers. Her knowledge can be followed and understood more in today's society we are more sophisicated today annd have a different outlook on life and how to handle differences than in the days when i was growing up. So i wish this generation much more prosperity and harmony with family and one another.
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I think her view of parenthood is pretty skewed. I'm fairly new to the game with none of my kids in school yet, so maybe I'm still in the honeymoon phase, but saying most parents think their kids aren't good enough? That's ridiculous. What an awful outlook. I think her views come out of HER fear and HER inadequacies.
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I don't think she's saying to allow your child to run the streets or be a hoodlum, but to show values, give guidance, but along the way also accept who your child is. Don't force baseball or ballet if they want to go fishing or play chess. She's also saying to let go of our preconceived notions of who we thought or want our children to be. We as parents have this idea that our kid should be a rich doctor or a star football player, and they may end up as just that but don't push them there if it's not in the cards.. I think her piece is great advice for all of us who ask and search for answers as to how and if I'm raising my child right. It was very easy for me as I see many others judge and say how you should raise your child until you have a child, you can't realize the anguish and hair pulling that you endure worrying as to what and if I'm doing right!
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I have and always will love my children for who they are. My love for them IS UNCONDITIONAL and I’ve always told them that I am proud of them and will always love them no matter what they choose to do with their lives or who they choose to love. I do NOT have a check list for what I think is wright or wrong for them they will learn to live their lives they way they choose and will learn from their mistakes. I will always be here for them unconditionally no matter what.
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Awesome message. The worst mistake a parent can make is living your live through your kid and trying to make them achieve what you could not. God creates every person in his own unique way. We as parents just need to pray, trust and let go.
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We have ALWAYS nurtured and accepted and LOVE UNCONDITIONALLY our children. We want our children to be who they are. I don't accept the opinion that no one TRULY loves. You have to raise kids to appreciate themselves and love the differences they each have. Please keep in mind that love and happiness comes from within. Society, generally speaking, can never influence that or take that away from us. Blessings
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