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I was 'marriage-shamed' for getting engaged at 22

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“I’m engaged!” I whispered excitedly down the phone to my friend, worrying that I’d wake my future husband’s parents.

Silence.

“Hey, are you there?” I asked, wondering if my reception was bad.

“Yeah,” she finally replied. “Wow. I can’t believe it.”

“I know! It's quite sudden, but I said yes and I’m happy.”

There was a tense silence.https://www.bbc.co.uk/bbcthree/article/25f1215d-eabc-4a77-96f8-733c0e0ecbd1?ns_mchannel=social&ocid=socialflow_facebook&ns_source=facebook&ns_campaign=bbcnews&fbclid=IwAR2lYq_RwfXbGytRy036nv7Ht4J3khuy8OshSa75xHMxWS6LIpLHLOglKRQ
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We have to grow up and accept the fact that age has nothing to do with the outcome of a relationship. You can be engaged or married young and end up being together for the rest of your lives and you can be old when you married but end up divorced after a year or two of marriage and vice versa.
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What are your thoughts about getting engaged or married young?
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Best Wishes! Married my David at 19 and he was out of University. We just celebrated our 47th Anniversary. Have a wonderful life with your Love.
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Best Wishes! Married my David at 19 and he was out of University. We just celebrated our 47th Anniversary. Have a wonderful life with your Love.
That was 47 years ago (Congrats!) life is different now.
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Married at 20 (and a 1/2 ), only dated a year, but have known each other since 14, and all of his family as well. We’ve been married 16 years now and have six kids. (And I was on my junior year of college, finished getting my bachelors, on time, and went on to get my Masters as well (while having kids too).) And, we’ve always been financially stable enough to have our own place, once married, as I lived with my parents while dating, given I was working and in college full-time. face with tears of joy
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Married at 20 (and a 1/2 ), only dated a year, but have known each other since 14, and all of his family as well. We’ve been married 16 years now and have six kids. (And I was on my junior year of college, finished getting my bachelors, on time, and went on to get my Masters as well (while having kids too).) And, we’ve always been financially stable enough to have our own place, once married, as I lived with my parents while dating, given I was working and in college full-time. face with tears of joy
That's the thing about free will and all of us being different. Nobody has to do things like anyone else. We each have a story so different than everyone else. So, go you! Also, 6 kids? Wow. My respect, hands down! winking face
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That's the thing about free will and all of us being different. Nobody has to do things like anyone else. We each have a story so different than everyone else. So, go you! Also, 6 kids? Wow. My respect, hands down! winking face
Yes and ?
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It’s speaking to the article’s idea that folks who marry young are often “shamed” or ridiculed or looked at a certain way...which I would have to assume folks in that group are assuming those marrying young won’t make it, jumped in to early, can’t be successful, won’t finish dreams, etc.
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I got engaged at 22, married at 23. Almost been married 2 years now!! And very happy. smiling face with smiling eyes I definitely got the you're too young from other people. One older person even tried to tell me I was too young and when I asked him how old he was when he was married he replied 19, but said things were different back then! face with tears of joy but at the end of the day the only opinion that matters is the 2 people getting married!
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I got engaged at 22, married at 23. Almost been married 2 years now!! And very happy. smiling face with smiling eyes I definitely got the you're too young from other people. One older person even tried to tell me I was too young and when I asked him how old he was when he was married he replied 19, but said things were different back then! face with tears of joy but at the end of the day the only opinion that matters is the 2 people getting married!
Being married for two years only, doesn't allow you to say that you made the right choice. Living in a remote rural place helps though. The notion of time and the way of living are different than the ones in urban places. Maybe it will enable your couple to stand the test of time. The fact is your case can't prove anything for now. Good luck!
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