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Male Managers, uncomfortable working around women
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We have to find the balance in everything. Setting or maintaining appropriate boundaries at work could really be a big help and still develop professional and mentor relationship.
Why do you think male managers are uncomfortable working around women?
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They're uncomfortable with spending 1on1 time with women, specifically. I bet you there are lots of women who are uncomfortable with spending 1on1 time with a man at work as well. Times are tricky these days.
Hey, that's the cost of doing business, baby. Maybe if you smiled more, the female employees would like you more. Grow a thicker skin, you're being too sensitive. Maybe you weren't ready for management.
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Hey, that's the cost of doing business, baby. Maybe if you smiled more, the female employees would like you more. Grow a thicker skin, you're being too sensitive. Maybe you weren't ready for management.
How are they in management and also not ready for management .Your thinking is silly. grinning squinting face
How are they in management and also not ready for management .Your thinking is silly. grinning squinting face
That is such an absurd statement I don't even know when to start! People get moved into management for many, many reasons, some of which are not because they would make good managers. Have all the managers you ever met been perfect, excellent managers?
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Perhaps it isn't always that they're afraid that they won't be able to control themselves or act appropriately, but rather that they may be accused of something that they didn't do, not a crime persay where the burden of proof is"beyond a reasonable doubt" but rather in the corporate world where accusers can sue the company for millions and get settlements, and the accused can lose their jobs without proof beyond doubt. It seems the issue is not that the men are opposed to mentoring women, but rather that it's the private 1-on-1 scenarios where there aren't witnesses present to verify the truth. So perhaps the solution is mentoring in groups, or for the burden of proof to be more that of a crime rather than just accusations.
Perhaps it isn't always that they're afraid that they won't be able to control themselves or act appropriately, but rather that they may be accused of something that they didn't do, not a crime persay where the burden of proof is"beyond a reasonable doubt" but rather in the corporate world where accusers can sue the company for millions and get settlements, and the accused can lose their jobs without proof beyond doubt. It seems the issue is not that the men are opposed to mentoring women, but rather that it's the private 1-on-1 scenarios where there aren't witnesses present to verify the truth. So perhaps the solution is mentoring in groups, or for the burden of proof to be more that of a crime rather than just accusations.
Exactly this.
Perhaps it isn't always that they're afraid that they won't be able to control themselves or act appropriately, but rather that they may be accused of something that they didn't do, not a crime persay where the burden of proof is"beyond a reasonable doubt" but rather in the corporate world where accusers can sue the company for millions and get settlements, and the accused can lose their jobs without proof beyond doubt. It seems the issue is not that the men are opposed to mentoring women, but rather that it's the private 1-on-1 scenarios where there aren't witnesses present to verify the truth. So perhaps the solution is mentoring in groups, or for the burden of proof to be more that of a crime rather than just accusations.
It's sad that so many men have committed sexual abuse that it's easy to assume all men are perverts and abusers. Surely at least 20% are not.
Or perhaps men just act decently.
Or perhaps men just act decently.
Would be nice if all humans acted decently, but unfortunately there are both men and women who commit vile actions. Including sexual harassment and abuse. And false accusations for personal gain or spite. As a result, substantial portions of both genders are finding it better to play it safe as far as the situations they put themselves in. Seems to me that rather than avoiding what could be beneficial situations out of paranoia, companies and professionals would be better off safeguarding by recording these interactions with cameras and having observers present, so the truth can be verified with evidence and testimony if something happens or is alleged. Oftentimes just structuring things this way is a very effective deterrent, and prevents inappropriate or abusive behavior.
What comes to mind for me? What are the demographic and social profiles of the men completing the survey? I work primarily with women. I mentor everyday because we need more capacity and capability to do what we are trying to do. I happen to be in a lead position with more qualification and experience. I can’t imagine not mentoring (not doing my job). And, I can’t imagine getting accused of sexual harassment by my female colleagues. Maybe I am ignorant or stupid. All of that said, I need more data than a simple, short, unsupported article.
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