erika-alonzoerika-alonzo

Baby - my definition of perfect.

My little boy John was born at 24 weeks in 2014, he spent 127 days in neonatal care. He was very sick and had a very bumpy neonatal journey. During John's early weeks on the unit I was desperate to talk to other parents who had been through what we were going through. I met lots of parents who were still on the unit, and we all supported each other, but I really wanted to talk to someone who had already been through the neonatal journey. I wanted a bit of reassurance that life might return to some form of normality. John came home on oxygen and spent quite a lot of time back in hospital, I found this really difficult and became anxious and felt quite isolated. I was later diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and my mental health really suffered. I was lucky enough to have a good support network who encouraged me to seek help. I also used holistic therapy which had a huge positive impact on me, with time I started to recover. John grew stronger and we started to enjoy him. In 2015 I set up Spoons as a private support group for the parents I had met on our NICU journey. I started to volunteer on the unit and talk to parents about my own experience and they joined the group. With the help of friends, I set up a community support group and began fundraising for the neonatal units at hospitals. Spoons really took off - the peer support side was amazing and the feedback from parents was fantastic. Parents had a platform to keep in touch with friends they had met on the unit and speak to other parents online. The families were fantastic, and were keen to get involved with Spoons and give their own time back to help others. I have a background in support services and am passionate about improving mental health and well being. I really wanted to support parents who were facing their own challenges in neonatal care and so I took up a counselling course. We registered Spoons as a charity and have never looked back. Spoons exists because our worlds were turned upside by having a baby in NICU, we have been able to turn our negative experience into a positive and I am very proud of this, I am proud to be part of Team Spoons.

Model with Asperger's on Anti-Bullying

Drop file here to send
By host - erika-alonzo
A teenager with Asperger's who had her arm broken by bullies says catwalk modelling is where she feels most secure.

Charlie Matthews, 15, from Willsbridge, Bitton, south Gloucestershire, was diagnosed with the condition aged seven.

She has been through years of depression and anxiety and is now an advocate for the anti-bullying charity, Bullies Out.

She chose to speak about her experiences at the start of National Anti-Bullying Week.

Image Credit: BBC
This discussion is set to be extendable. After it expires, the content will remain, but all guests will be removed. After that if any guests decide to join it, more days will be added to the discussion
erika-alonzo
erika-alonzo followed this discussion
faiyaz.khan
faiyaz.khan followed this discussion
10 more people followed this discussion
Host
Admin
My little sister had Aspergers and it is such an incredible gift. I’m in awe of how talented she is.

She was bullied growing up and struggled with depression as a result. It was heart breaking to watch, and it seemed like things would never pick up for her. But she was so resilient.
9 mths
Host
Admin
Already told my kids if i ever catch them bullying someone, im gonna do it 10x worse to them.
9 mths
Host
Admin
I have Asperger’s too! I would love to talk to Charlie and be her friend and empathize with her as I’ve dealt with bullying myself ❤️
9 mths
bilal-bosseamelia.collyriad.djebli
bilal-bosse, amelia.colly, riad.djebli and 7 other people started following this discussion
Host
Admin
We need to teach the kids.. As yes I mean WE, not just teachers but all of us..that 'others' 'differences' are not a threat, autistic/ADHD/aspergies..all that uniqueness should be celebrated just like we do with 'normal' characteristics/personality traits..in non ASD etc..it should never be seen as a difference to stigmatize, bully or exclude from society or any social interaction..teach your kids, teach others kids to celebrate differences and interact with what is unique to each and all
9 mths
Host
Admin
As someone who has been there, I can tell you that anyone who says"just ignore the bullies" has never been bullied.
9 mths
10 more people followed this discussion
rafi-islamadriane-bertamatt-dyer
rafi-islam, adriane-berta, matt-dyer and 7 other people started following this discussion
10 more people followed this discussion
Host
Admin
My anger is towards schools that don't take bullying seriously and because they don't, children are basically terrorized throughout their childhood. Why is this allowed to continue???? pouting face pouting face pouting face
Edited
9 mths
Host
Admin
Poor thing, she seems sincere and genuine. Nobody deserves to be bullied.
She also seems smart and I hope that she will make good friends. She’s also very naturally pretty. You go girl.
9 mths
Host
Admin
A good way to deal with bullies is through physical intimidation. Take up a martial art (I'm not sure if boxing counts) and make it known far and wide that you are training. It promotes fitness (good for any model), creates confidence and gives one the tools to deal with anyone stupid enough to think they can take you on.
9 mths
Host
Admin
This story is so close to home. As an adult I came to realize that I have Asperger’s only after my son received a similar diagnosis - so having grown up with this condition and now seeing my child go through the same I can really understand what you are going through.
9 mths
Host
Admin
Haven’t we learned our lesson about sending teenagers to work in fashion.
9 mths
Host
Admin
The bullies are obviously jealous as she is really pretty. However, she is way too young for this type of modelling! Also, the fashion industry is known for its rife bullying. I hope she'll cope or find something else.
9 mths
Type your message...