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Baby - my definition of perfect.

My little boy John was born at 24 weeks in 2014, he spent 127 days in neonatal care. He was very sick and had a very bumpy neonatal journey. During John's early weeks on the unit I was desperate to talk to other parents who had been through what we were going through. I met lots of parents who were still on the unit, and we all supported each other, but I really wanted to talk to someone who had already been through the neonatal journey. I wanted a bit of reassurance that life might return to some form of normality. John came home on oxygen and spent quite a lot of time back in hospital, I found this really difficult and became anxious and felt quite isolated. I was later diagnosed with Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD) and my mental health really suffered. I was lucky enough to have a good support network who encouraged me to seek help. I also used holistic therapy which had a huge positive impact on me, with time I started to recover. John grew stronger and we started to enjoy him. In 2015 I set up Spoons as a private support group for the parents I had met on our NICU journey. I started to volunteer on the unit and talk to parents about my own experience and they joined the group. With the help of friends, I set up a community support group and began fundraising for the neonatal units at hospitals. Spoons really took off - the peer support side was amazing and the feedback from parents was fantastic. Parents had a platform to keep in touch with friends they had met on the unit and speak to other parents online. The families were fantastic, and were keen to get involved with Spoons and give their own time back to help others. I have a background in support services and am passionate about improving mental health and well being. I really wanted to support parents who were facing their own challenges in neonatal care and so I took up a counselling course. We registered Spoons as a charity and have never looked back. Spoons exists because our worlds were turned upside by having a baby in NICU, we have been able to turn our negative experience into a positive and I am very proud of this, I am proud to be part of Team Spoons.

Money Lessons From Your Parents

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My parents really didn't impart any money handling tips so I never learned and until now, I don't have fixed savings strategy.
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My parents always remind me to never spend faster than you can earn it.
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My parents were all about saving. My mom used coupons to get discounts in the supermarket all the time! That helped keep the budget in check.
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Never underestimate the value of a single cent. Some friends laugh at me when I keep my coins but I believe in what my mom said.
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Value the money that you have worked hard to earn. Don't put it t waste. Always save. Well, I'm doing it til now.
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My parents always remind me to never spend faster than you can earn it.
I agree! It's not easy to earn money so don't spend it willy nilly.
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My dad always told us to spend on necessities, not luxuries. If we got used to luxuries, we'd end up penniless in no time.
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They say that giving your children an opportunity for an allowance can teach them valuable money lessons, and I would have to agree. My parents taught me that working hard was one of the greatest ways to increase my savings, whether it was through chores or a part-time job.
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My parents suck at budgeting. I learned what not to do watching them! LOL!
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My dad always talked about investing your money conservatively.
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My parents are generous and that's why I am generous too. I give most of the time because I know that it will go back to me in thousand folds. That's what they taught me and I am proud to say that I have learned it from them.
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Distinguishing needs and wants is very important. My mom always said, waste not, want not.
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Always save and give to the poor. smiling face with smiling eyes
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