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More people in relationships are 'micro-cheating'

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The Daily Mail on Thursday published an article on"micro-cheating." And depending on your perspective, it could help validate the fears you've been having about your relationship — or create new insecurities.

Melanie Schilling, an Australian psychologist, told the Daily Mail that micro-cheating involves seemingly trivial behaviors that suggest a person is emotionally or physically involved with someone outside the relationship — think listing a"friend" under a code name in your phone.https://www.businessinsider.com/what-is-micro-cheating-2018-1?r=UK&IR=T&utm_content=buffer2eccf&utm_medium=social&utm_source=facebook.com&utm_campaign=buffer-biuk
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"Micro-cheating, according to Schilling, is fundamentally about secrecy and deception." I think most of us have experienced or experiencing such from our partners.
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What is your opinion on micro-cheating?
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Very true.
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So sad but so true.
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I was in a relationship, not too long ago, with a woman who had many male friends. This is never something that has bothered me, and it never will, but the story of what happened serves to illustrate what “micro-cheating” is. They texted a lot, my ex-girlfriend and this guy. I never read them, I never cared, and I never will care, but to others, this follows under the definition of a form of “micro-cheating”. Texting/talking frequently to someone of the opposite sex.
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I think another example of micro-cheating is;
Looking at other women for too long.
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I think another example of micro-cheating is;
Looking at other women for too long.
I understand where people are coming from. I understand it because I once felt the same way. I would use the word “respect”, as if it meant that respect towards me was more important than the respect I gave to them.
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Micro-cheating is just another way to add to your vat of toxic sludge. Cut that shit out.
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I think the whole entire “micro-cheating” thing is a load of crap. And that crap is of such poor quality that it's not even suitable for fertilizing roses.
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Micro-cheating claims seem to be an attempt to control who your partner is friends with and who they can talk to.
That's bulls**t because one of the things which makes (and made) my partner interesting in the first place is their life outside of our relationship. Talk to whom ever you like, spend time with whomever you like. So long as you bring it home at the end of the night, we're all good.
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Micro-cheating claims seem to be an attempt to control who your partner is friends with and who they can talk to.
That's bulls**t because one of the things which makes (and made) my partner interesting in the first place is their life outside of our relationship. Talk to whom ever you like, spend time with whomever you like. So long as you bring it home at the end of the night, we're all good.
hese claims of micro-cheating seem to be an attempt to insert a level of control into a relationship which has no business being there because relationships are about 2 people making an ongoing choice to be together.
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hese claims of micro-cheating seem to be an attempt to insert a level of control into a relationship which has no business being there because relationships are about 2 people making an ongoing choice to be together.
The same thoughts I have on micro aggression: a nonsense, entitled, dangerous, unhealthy concept. Not only anything you say can be considered offensive, but now also everything you do and feel. It’s the end of personal freedom.
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In the past we used to stigmatize unhealthy jealousy, also known as possession. Now we exalt it by calling everything that offends possessive people micro-cheating.
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People seem to think that they can control whatever happens in their relationship and that couldn't be any more wrong. When you get into a relationship with someone, they are choosing to intertwine their life with yours. Obviously it's okay to set boundaries and it's probably a bit unrealistic to think that one should never have to compromise even just a little in a relationship, but they are still their own person.
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If your partner is going to cheat on you, they are going to cheat on you regardless if you tell them what/what not to do. If your partner is going to leave you, believe me, telling them who they can or cannot talk to is NOT going to prevent them from leaving you. If anything, it will make them MORE likely to leave you.
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