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Rethinking infidelity

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Infidelity is the ultimate betrayal. But does it have to be? Relationship therapist Esther Perel examines why people cheat, and unpacks why affairs are so traumatic: because they threaten our emotional security. In infidelity, she sees something unexpected — an expression of longing and loss. A must-watch for anyone who has ever cheated or been cheated on, or who simply wants a new framework for understanding relationships.https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved?language=en
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Nice topic to be discussed. We really need this kind of talk nowadays to open our eyes to the reality of married life or any relationship.
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What's your opinion about this?
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married life has its pros and cons... it's all about understanding and sacrifices
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She’s a really great speaker and how she discusses about infidelity in a relationship is very superb.
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She’s a really great speaker and how she discusses about infidelity in a relationship is very superb.
Incredible talk.
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She’s a really great speaker and how she discusses about infidelity in a relationship is very superb.
Me too, I love how she said that an affair can't just be defined in one way.
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Having an affair is saying you deserve to chase your desires and express your personhood in a way that you do not want to grant to your partner. The more you omit or lie about it the more you prove that you do not see them as an equal, you progressively dehumanize the person you love.
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Having an affair is saying you deserve to chase your desires and express your personhood in a way that you do not want to grant to your partner. The more you omit or lie about it the more you prove that you do not see them as an equal, you progressively dehumanize the person you love.
You can't assume that the same is not wanted for the partner. Your comment denotes victimization. Often an affair has nothing to do with the partner but rather the self.
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You can't assume that the same is not wanted for the partner. Your comment denotes victimization. Often an affair has nothing to do with the partner but rather the self.
An honest and open conversation would be happening before the affair to discuss options/alternatives if both partners viewed the other as actual equals. An action can be solely self-motivated but still harm or benefit others regardless what the intent was.
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An honest and open conversation would be happening before the affair to discuss options/alternatives if both partners viewed the other as actual equals. An action can be solely self-motivated but still harm or benefit others regardless what the intent was.
I agree wholeheartedly with what you’re saying. The thing that a lot of people don’t consider is that everyone doesn’t see it that way, and everyone doesn’t have the maturity to be in a marriage or relationship as it is defined concerning faithfulness. It’s just like everyone cannot be a millionaire or a supervisor because they don’t have the perspective or character for that position. We tend to think that just because we have feelings and marry someone that both parties have the capability to participate faithfully long term. I think that’s why affairs can change people and relationships for the better because it’s a new experience that gives opportunity for growth.
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