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What's one of the hardest things to give up?

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Christmas is around the corner which means lent is also coming soon. It's a season of sacrifice and giving things up.

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10. Carbs (cause we all love our bread, pasta, and spuds)
9.Masturbation and Porn as they tend to go hand in hand (no pun intended)
8. Drugs
7. Laughing
6. Coffee
5. Chocolate
4. Drinking
3. Sex
2. Mobile phones
1. Social Media
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Which one can you easily give up and which one is the hardest?
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Privacy. I am a very private person and I'd like to keep it that way. If anything jeopardizes my privacy in anyway, I will walk away without thinking twice.
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The hardest thing to give up is control. Control over life, control over death, control over physical appearance or reputation. But in reality, that control was never mine in the first place.
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Self harming. I have a past with self harming, which is one of the main reasons why you would only ever see me with long sleeved tops on. Explaining self harm to someone who has never experienced it is quite difficult.

I used to hate myself so much, I couldn't deal with the burning feeling of hatred that filled me wholly. So I took a blade to my skin and felt fulfilled as the blood poured of me. I deserved the pain.

It became a habit, an obsession, a need. I did it so often and it was my only release. It took me so long to learn not to take my anger out on myself. Some days I make a mistake and do it again. It was so painful to stop, it was like letting go of my only relief.
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Hope. I never give up hoping for things to get better. Without that hope, I don't know how am I going to survive.
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Ok. I will admit it. My phone. PULEESE don’t take my phone! I love having the world at my fingertips.
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The hardest thing to give up on is the desire to be perfect.

To understand and make peace with the fact that you cannot be perfect at everything you do is the hardest thing to overcome. We want perfection in everything, be it our job, our friendships, our family, our relationships. But, obviously, we don’t get it.that feeling one gets, when one has to accept this fact — that he cannot be perfect/his relationships cannot be perfect — is hard to battle with.
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Smoking. After 22 years I spontaneously stopped smoking, with no withdrawal symptoms. I maintained this for three months. Then I dropped my nike on a corner (gas guzzler in front driving without a gas cap), and for two weeks was unable to use both legs and both arms. I started smoking again. It took me twenty more years to quit again, trying all the time. I have a stack of SmokeEnder certificates, and other such schemes, none of which stuck for more than a few weeks. Finally I realized neither will power nor messaging my subconscious the negative message “do not smoke” were the problem, not the solution, and instead invented a mental judo for myself that ended up with a real quit by the device of “I’m a smoker, but I forget to smoke”. That was 12 years ago now. Took a year, but it did work, and without stress.
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Smoking. After 22 years I spontaneously stopped smoking, with no withdrawal symptoms. I maintained this for three months. Then I dropped my nike on a corner (gas guzzler in front driving without a gas cap), and for two weeks was unable to use both legs and both arms. I started smoking again. It took me twenty more years to quit again, trying all the time. I have a stack of SmokeEnder certificates, and other such schemes, none of which stuck for more than a few weeks. Finally I realized neither will power nor messaging my subconscious the negative message “do not smoke” were the problem, not the solution, and instead invented a mental judo for myself that ended up with a real quit by the device of “I’m a smoker, but I forget to smoke”. That was 12 years ago now. Took a year, but it did work, and without stress.
I know what you mean! My dad struggled with giving up smoking too and he keeps back sliding but eventually he was able to do it at age 55 after trying for over 35 years.
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The hardest thing I have had to give up in life has been friendship's. For example, one friend became addicted to hard drugs, refused help, and put me in dangerous situations. Therefore, a conscious decision was made to end the friendship. This is hard, if you genuinely valued the friendship. Conversely, it seems as if ending a friendship is hard, but making new friends can be just as difficult.
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I am unable to give up thinking about my life and my love. So It is the hardest thing to give up stop thinking about my past love and it's effecting my present. I read somewhere that Love is pure, love is painful, love is sweet and love is dreadful. True love is overwhelming. Our lives depend on it and it often seems like our planet would stop spinning if love didn’t exist. Love is something we strive for and something we mourn the loss of..
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For me, The realization that I am often not in control of my life. When I least expect it something unexpected happens - good and bad. I cannot make people change or make them change their bad behavior. I must accept people and things that happen as they come and realize that I’m not in control of the universe.
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The job which I really worked hard and was passionate for, I got surprisingly fired from that job just because I was learning my job, which wasn’t looking efficient for them.
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The hardest thing I ever gave up — miles and miles beyond anything I’ve ever had to quit — was running. I ran thousands of miles along the trails and back roads of the Midwest training for marathons and I ran a ten-mile loop up into the Pali twice a week and a shorter route to Kuhio Beach twice more while living in Honolulu.

Finally, after what I’ve guesstimated at 70,000 miles over thirty years, my knees gave out. In my favorite recurrent dreams I’m still running.
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