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maryam.rao
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This is my 15th year teaching foundation phase learners. I graduated with a Bachelor of Science in English Education degree and a Master of Education in Teaching and Learning degree.
You don't have to settle': the joy of living alone
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There are those who still believe that traditional marriage is the natural order of things – and that those not participating in this institution are failing society, and must be desperately unhappy and lonely. But more women are deciding that being in a bad marriage, or trying to co-parent with an irresponsible man, is much worse than dying alone.
Why do you think more women are choosing to not settle and just be alone?
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Being independent and fearless about it is a massive liberation. Learning the merits of freedom and no restrictions, only personal accountability is uplifting and a huge demonstration of strength of character. On the other hand by no means a criticism against partnerships and love - but partnerships and co-dependency are absolutely not an exclusive requisite for love. Love yourself - love life.
Being independent and fearless about it is a massive liberation. Learning the merits of freedom and no restrictions, only personal accountability is uplifting and a huge demonstration of strength of character. On the other hand by no means a criticism against partnerships and love - but partnerships and co-dependency are absolutely not an exclusive requisite for love. Love yourself - love life.
Absolutely. We need to rethink social conditioning.
Absolutely. We need to rethink social conditioning.
Indeed needs a reasonable overhaul... once liberated you realize how socially conditioning has affected so many years of choices and missed opportunities.
Being independent and fearless about it is a massive liberation. Learning the merits of freedom and no restrictions, only personal accountability is uplifting and a huge demonstration of strength of character. On the other hand by no means a criticism against partnerships and love - but partnerships and co-dependency are absolutely not an exclusive requisite for love. Love yourself - love life.
Absolutely agree... Although I’m married, I value my independence and autonomy more. If I was codependent or relied on my husband financially or emotionally, I’d be an unhappy person. I’m married because I’d be perfectly happy unmarried.
Casey, I'm in the same position. I'm only married because he insisted, and it was also efficient from a"resident" status viewpoint. I'm still financially and emotionally independent. I'm with him because I want to be. I'd be perfectly happy and financially secure on my own. heart suit
Over the years, and in and out of relationships, I've come to the conclusion that I am a much happier person when single.
Divorced after husband of many years walked out. Thought it was the worst thing that could ever happen to me, but it has turned out to be one of the best. I’ve lost count of how many well-intentioned friends and family have told me “Don’t worry, there’s someone out there for you!” Well maybe there is and maybe there isn’t, but it would take a lot to get me to give up my present single life. Surely after 50 years of life and all sorts of interests and achievements in my own right I’m allowed to be complete just as I am if I want to be? I’m very happy. I’ve been thinking “surely I’m not the only one who is happier this way” for a while now and this really resonated with me. I’ve got time to spend with family and friends, a good co-parenting relationship with my former husband, career getting back on track, a happy place to live with my wee boy, and the headspace and independence I need to be content-I’m in no rush to change it!
Divorced after husband of many years walked out. Thought it was the worst thing that could ever happen to me, but it has turned out to be one of the best. I’ve lost count of how many well-intentioned friends and family have told me “Don’t worry, there’s someone out there for you!” Well maybe there is and maybe there isn’t, but it would take a lot to get me to give up my present single life. Surely after 50 years of life and all sorts of interests and achievements in my own right I’m allowed to be complete just as I am if I want to be? I’m very happy. I’ve been thinking “surely I’m not the only one who is happier this way” for a while now and this really resonated with me. I’ve got time to spend with family and friends, a good co-parenting relationship with my former husband, career getting back on track, a happy place to live with my wee boy, and the headspace and independence I need to be content-I’m in no rush to change it!
That’s fab, so glad you’ve found balance in your life. Divorce is hard, been through it, and now I live with my kids and dogs and I’m very content!
That’s fab, so glad you’ve found balance in your life. Divorce is hard, been through it, and now I live with my kids and dogs and I’m very content!
A friend of mine told me, that after their divorce. She had more spare time to her self. Because the kids are at their father for some time. She loves it and even Better. Because the X husband think the kids takes to much of his busy time. They get shipped of to his parents. Who loves Them and loves they come by much more now. They are sad about the divorce. But the kids are lucky to have such loving grand parents.
I adore my partner but neither of us would want to share a tiny London flat forever. Therefore I share said tiny flat with a small ginger cat and he lives on his beautiful boat and we see lots of each other and everything is wonderful.
The older I get the more I think that I may stay alone .. Cannot believe what some women choose to put up with or think they have to put up with. I'll never sell my soul.
The older I get the more I think that I may stay alone .. Cannot believe what some women choose to put up with or think they have to put up with. I'll never sell my soul.
I totally agree with your decision, stay alone.
The older I get the more I think that I may stay alone .. Cannot believe what some women choose to put up with or think they have to put up with. I'll never sell my soul.
I can't believe what some men put up with or think they have to put up with. Why do we assume this is only a problem for women?
YAAAAASSS!I am SO MUCH happier three and a half years after my husband left me and our daughter on the other side of the world. To be fair, he is, too, with his new family, so along with the cheating, lying and gaslighting, I'm so glad he walked out. We're settled in our home in London and we love it here so much - I'm setting up a business and my daughter is so happy. We don't have as much as we used to, and we don't miss it - life's never been better. And I never have to compromise again on what colour I want to paint a wall!
YAAAAASSS!I am SO MUCH happier three and a half years after my husband left me and our daughter on the other side of the world. To be fair, he is, too, with his new family, so along with the cheating, lying and gaslighting, I'm so glad he walked out. We're settled in our home in London and we love it here so much - I'm setting up a business and my daughter is so happy. We don't have as much as we used to, and we don't miss it - life's never been better. And I never have to compromise again on what colour I want to paint a wall!
Good for you and your daughter. You really don’t need a man to define you - you can choose one that compliments you.
I am married to a wonderful, giving man and a fabulous father. He is raising his girls to be independent and has set the bar so high, they won’t find a man of his caliber easily.
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